Thursday, September 10, 2009

forthright (fôrth'rīt')
1. direct and without evasion; straightforward
2. frank; direct; blunt; candid
3. something *she* is not

Saturday, August 8, 2009

I have spent the better part of the last 10 years being in one dysfunctional/complicated relationship after another. I have been conditioned to believe that I am not worth being with/fighting for. I am diligently trying to condition myself to believe otherwise; trying to REcondition myself. Easier said than done.

Duck on the pond, duck on the pond, duck on the pond...

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Things with Elise are moving much slower than I am used to. Yes, we've had sex. But we see each other infrequently, and there is little communication between us when we're not hanging out. When we're together, though, she is really attentive, and "girlfriend"y, and cuddly. Ugh!

Monday, July 27, 2009

Friday, June 26, 2009

::BREATHES:: I am not good at "playing it cool." Some people were born with the ability; not me. But I *have* to right now if I don't want to scare her away; turn her off. Because right now I have her engaged; ignited, and if I don't dial it down a notch I will smother our fire.

Some details:
Her name is Elise. She is 25. And she has completely captivated me.

I am NOT good at playing it cool.

Sunday, June 21, 2009


I'm at it again. You know...the falling head over heels business. She finds me "captivating" and is Upstate this weekend picking strawberries, and making homemade jam with her dad. She couldn't be cuter. Equal parts rockstar and delicate cosmic flower. And I'm a smitten kitten :)

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Out beyond ideas
of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field.

I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down
in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.

Ideas, language
- even the phrase "each other" -
do not make any sense.

The last couple months have been trying, to say the least. I have felt an overwhelming feeling of feeling underwhelmed by life. And for the last 2 weeks I have been trying to pull myself out of the emotional quicksand; struggling all the while and having to actively remind myself to "relax."

The negative:
I fell...hard. And had my heart broken.

The positive:
It's been broken before...and far worse. I will be okay. I will be okay. I will be...

I am proactively trying to move forward, pick up the pieces, and remind myself that I am a beautiful person, and that any woman would be lucky to have me. The constant reminding is difficult, but necessary.

Today's Tao --
35 (excerpts)

She who is centered
can go where she wishes, without danger.
She perceives the universal harmony,
even amid great pain,
because she has found peace in her heart.

Music or the smell of good cooking
may make people stop and enjoy...
But words seem monotonous
and without flavor.
When you look for it, there is nothing to see.
When you listen for it, there is nothing to hear.
When you use it, it is inexhaustible.

* * * * *

I miss her, but I will be okay. I love her, and find strength in knowing she, too, loves me. I shall take my leave with grace and poise so as not to exhaust the memory of what we shared. And I will will myself to move forward, despite feeling as though it is a journey upstream. After all, what isn't?

Sunday, May 31, 2009

I've had my fair share...but it has never been due to "bad timing." This one aches a sort of long, squeezing throb, as supposed to the usual sharp lightening pain that I've come to know as heartbreak.

She will leave for California in 6 months, and I will know that there was nothing I could have done or said to change things. Life is, after all, full of unexpected turbulences that are, let's face it, out of our control. But I can't help but take this personally despite her pleading with me not to. It becomes personal when one's feelings get hurt. And my feelings are, indeed, hurt.

I can't help but think about previous relationships, past lovers, former heartaches. I know "this, too, shall pass" but right now I am wading in it; kicking my feet as fast and hard as they will go in an attempt not to sink. Have you ever looked at a duck on a pond? I mean *really* looked? On the surface they are as calm as can be. But just beneath the surface their legs of flailing as fast as they can to keep them afloat.

I can certainly empathize.

I have said many times before that my heart must have been built the wrong way for me to experience as much pain as I do. But in thinking about this a little further, I think my heart *had* to be built this way. "The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain."

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

"As for me, I am a watercolor; I wash off."

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Wednesday at 7:30pm I will be underway to meet my love.
X x x

Saturday, March 28, 2009

There's a certain irony to the fact that the first three letters of your name type out "9-1-1" on my cellphone. It always feels like there's a sense of urgency in the midst of you. Like trying to hold onto sand.

Sunday, March 22, 2009

SO EXCITED!! Always get stoked during the planning stages of a new tattoo. Revamped the memorial tattoo for my Grandpa into a traditional Norwegian folk-art piece and it is looking FIERCE!! Stay tuned for pictures :)

Saturday, March 21, 2009

The human heart is an amazing muscle. Measuring no bigger than your clenched fist, and capable of doing so much. When I woke this morning that's exactly how my heart felt, too: clenched in my chest like a team of trapped wolves that wanted...out.

My mind wandered to the first time we kissed, the first time we fought, the first time we made-up. None of these things have happened of course because we've yet to meet.

And I am waiting. Patiently.

Sometimes I wonder if I have been built the wrong way; capable of feeling *too* much; loving *too* much. But if the alternative is not loving enough I choose this.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

step inside.
it's warm and sweet--
this insanity.
i love to dwell here
with my thoughts
to see what will become of me.

- kaite

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

It's hard to feel like an outsider of a group that you were once such a huge part of. On Sunday I went to my friend Romina's for the naming of her son's Godparents -- Tella was named Godmother. There, surrounded by Tella, the guy she's currently dating, and all of "our" friends who, more or less, dropped me once my relationship with Tella was over, I sat quietly poised trying hard to swallow through the apparent lump that had formed in my throat.

I faltered when Tella read a short speech, intended for Joaquin (Romina's son), with movie recommendations, a book she'd like him to read ("The Little Prince" which she followed with one of my favorite excerpts from the book) and a wish that he had gotten to know her mom before she passed away. I let the tears fall freely down my cheeks as the lump grew bigger in my throat. Tella's face contorted when she talked about her mom and I felt myself clutching the pillows underneath me just to stop myself from getting up from my seat to rush to her side to hold her.

Still, days after, I find myself waxing nostalgic and thinking about her. I miss her. I miss her smile. I miss *making* her smile. I can silence these thoughts long enough to realize that she and I don't belong together; we don't fit...but a great deal of time and love and energy was spent on that relationship and I'd be foolish to think this feeling wouldn't linger for a bit.

I know someday I will find my other half; my missing piece. In a way I feel I am already well on my way there. And I am trying to be patient and strong and positive. But it's hard to wake up in a Queen-sized bed every morning with no one next to me. Night after night I go to bed alone, and have been for the better part of the last 6 years. After that long you start to wonder if maybe you're not worth waking up to.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

The day she decided to learn how to walk over hot coals, she began by carrying a basin of water on her head.

Slow, deliberate steps and eyes always focused forward, as if to defy the heat; as if to prevent stumbling by looking the world in the face.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Even after all this time
the sun never 
says to the Earth 
"You owe me."

Look what happens
with a love like that;
it lights the
whole sky.

- Hafiz

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Olivia Wilde is perfect. (Shut up, Cory.)

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

I think this photo is *beautiful*. I'm not into body modifications like this one, but I'd be lying if I said this picture didn't inspire me.

Today is Tella's 31st Birthday. I miss her. Not romantically, and not like I am missing something in my life that would make me feel whole. But in a very familial way. I love Tella; I adore her. And I miss spending time with her. Happy Birthday, Tel x x x

Monday, February 16, 2009

(1) Last night's episode of The L Word was one of the best ever -- or at the very least, one of the best in a loooong time. It was reminiscent of the episode from Season One where the rest of "the gang" plots to find out if Dana's crush (Lara) was really gay, first by sending Shane in who asks about "those juicy little figs." Last night was slick and funny and sexy and emotional -- exactly how this lezzie likes to spend her Sunday evening.

(2) Helena Peabody/Rachel Shelley is the sex. I mean, seriously.
Please click here when you're ready to cream your panties.

(3) Yesterday I took advantage of some VERY RARE alone time at my apartment -- I have a roommate, you see, who is always here with me...whom I love to bits. But yesterday he was helping a friend of mine paint her apartment and I got to have some naked time. Oh how I love naked time. (Let me preface this next part with the fact that I live in the ground level apartment facing the street.) I watched some lesbian porn on my computer and masturbated...for a long time. I hadn't realized the sun had gone down and that my blinds were open, meaning anyone walking passed could EASILY see inside my livingroom. Yah...that realization was a bit embarassing (and slightly exciting).

(4) The one I love disappeared yesterday. She told me to wait...told me she'd be right back...and then never returned. My heart broke a little bit.

Today's a new day.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

That's right, ladies. When you tangle with a man, you get burned. Thanks Kit Porter for your infinite wisdom.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Starting fresh. Slate wiped clean. Expectations and past hurts left by the wayside. I am trying, hard, not to falter; not to fuck this up. I am trying equally hard to relinquish control and let this all unfurl as it should; in time. Much easier said than done.

She is on my mind. Lately, constantly.

I want to feel her warmth, her arms around me, her hair in the center of my hand.

Patience, Jen. Patience.